Ok, so here is the reason why I gave in to join the hords of others and start my own blog:
"Why would talking about a traumatic experience have almost no effect but writing about it yield such significant benefits? From a psychological perspective, talking and writing are very different. Talking can often be somewhat unstructured, disorganized, even chaotic. In contrast, writing encourages the creation of a story line and structure that help people make sense of what has happened and work towards a solution. [my emphasis] In short, talking can add to a sense of confusion, but writing provides a more systematic, solution-based approach." (Source)
Yes, writing encourages the creation of a story line and structure that help people to make sense of what they believe has happened - NOT what has happened. We create our memories of things that happened to us from the very beginning, even before those things have been sealed by the passage of time yet. We tell the stories to ourselves of what has happened, we connect the dots looking backwards, we seem to be able to see the contours of our choices, but they are merely fictions of what we belive in.